Monday, September 26, 2005

True Love Says

Is true love when you pray for someone else more than you pray for yourself?

4 comments:

caitmarie said...

Nope I don't think so. I think in order to really love someone you have to be able to love yourself. By loving yourself I think that means asking for guidance, strength, hope and all that other good stuff. However, I do think that in order to pray for someone there should be love involved. That doesn't necessarily mean you are in love with that person.

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kristen said...

okay being that i'm married, i find myself praying for both of us. not more me or not more him. i pray for us to have strength to fight battles with each other and for each other. i pray for us to have guidance on raising our children to know right from wrong. and i pray for our future and love for each other. so the answer is no.. :)

The Incurable Insomniac said...

I don't think that love has anything to do with prayer at all. True love is hard to define, hard to recognize, and hard to maintain, and yet it's the easiest thing in the world, despite all this, when it's right.

When you love, the other person's needs --both big and small, important and trivial-- mean as much to you as your own, even when that's not easy. It is friendship first and foremost, shared goals secondly, romance thirdly, and sexual lastly.

Love is paradoxical: as the physical passions mellow, the spiritual/emotional/intellectual passions grow hot. Love is evolution, love is constant change, love constant redefining, love is constant re-invention. If you want a blissful life with no challenges, no trials, and no sacrifice--especially on the deepest personal level of self-definition and personal self-awareness, then run away, because love is a furnace that fires your darkest, stoniest coals down to pure diamonds. And as I've learned personally, Great Love exacts a great price; it is not free and it is not a gift, it is something that is earned both by the individuals and by the couple.

Sound trite or cliche? Take it from someone who made a lot of mistakes looking for love, but was finally found by it at the age of 48. If you're impatient, you will make impatient choices.

One last cliche: you cannot look for love outside of yourself. You must find it within and then wait for your readied soul to draw the right person to you. The hunger for love should not be confused with the desire for marriage or for having children; it must exist in and of itself, and when you are ready for them, your soulmate will appear. No sooner and no later.

Sermon over.

EKWisdom said...

I feel enlightened. You are such amazing people.